Recommitment to Kwitcherbitchin’

I have a very old, ingrained habit of complaining. I grew up in a family of complainers. My mother was a martyr’s martyr. I heard “Kwitcherbitchin’!” a lot growing up. Complaining is a lot like smoking cigarettes; it’s great when you’re doing it, and a disgusting habit once you’ve quit….

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Not New Years Day

I got up this morning, made The Sweetheart’s coffee and lunch, and sent him out the door, just like every other morning. I didn’t even glance at the whiteboard I had meticulously crosshatched with goals and days of the week. Somewhere around 1:15 this afternoon, I was standing in the…

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The Catastrophic Result of Self Care

Yesterday’s article started the conversation about Self Care, but it certainly didn’t cover everything there is to know. (I’m wondering; is there a topic that could be adequately addressed in a 750-word article?) I had consciously worked to deal with my codependency issues for nearly two decades. Nothing I learned…

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Wrapped Around the Axle

Today has been a ‘wrapped around the axle’ kind of day. If you’re not familiar with the term, I’ll give you a quick visual that I’m sure you’re familiar with. Driving on the highway, you’re behind a car that has a plastic bag flapping underneath it. That bag is wrapped…

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Right, Wrong, and Other Destinations

“You’re WRONG!” The words hit me like an attack. My entire focus turned inward, questioning what about me was wrong. Thankfully, I have enough training that I’m rarely triggered by these episodes for very long. After all, how could I be ‘wrong?’ I am me; what I am cannot be…

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Blocks Suck

As a Life Coach, I cannot understand why a coach would ever focus on their clients’ blocks. I see the blurbs everywhere, “Overcome your Blocks,” “Conquer Obstacles,” “Push through your Pain.” They are legitimate coaching methods, but I simply cannot understand why anyone would use them, given the much easier…

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