Some people say the ego is the mind. I say the ego is a redneck from Missouri. Perhaps they are one and the same.
I mean, think about it. What do we know about rednecks?
They tote guns… because they are sworn to protect themselves and anybody else who might need protectin’, ‘specially them thar underdogs
They fight… not randomly, but for what they believe in and for the same reason they carry guns (‘ceptin’ when they’s fightin’ one another fer fun)
They’re loyal to a fault
They will always stand up for what they believe in
They’re not known for independent thinking… but that can work in our favor
They like things easy
They’re stubborn… another fine quality if you know how to use it to get what you want
They’re highly focused… think NASCAR. Oh yeah, they’re focused
They love dogs… anyone who loves dogs can’t be all bad!
Why specifically from Missouri? It’s the Show Me State!
You may be wondering how the ego is like that. After all, I used to think mine was more like a spoiled two-year-old.
First off, the ego demands proof. If I want the ego to believe me about anything, I’ve got to give it complete, unequivocal, indisputable proof. The ego says, “Show Me!” Of course, this can be a bit of a task with that hulking redneck blocking the way. After all, it’s that big redneck’s job to protect me, even if that means protecting me from me.
This ties to the mind in the matter that if I’m going to change reactions, beliefs, or thoughts, I’ve got to know who I’m dealing with and how to handle them. Rednecks are great partners when we know how to work with them (remember, they’re incredibly loyal.) Here are my guidelines for dealing with rednecks.
- Never, ever, ever, ever (did I mention NEVER) attempt to forcibly disarm a redneck. Attempting to remove a redneck’s weaponry is a great way to get everybody hurt. They may die in the process, but they will die armed. Instead, show the redneck that you mean no harm. The best way to do that is to put down your own weapons. Yep, drop all attempts to overpower the redneck. You can’t win by force, but you can win. The first thing to show a redneck is that you don’t want to fight.
- Give the redneck what it wants… something easy to do. Hypnosis, guided visualizations, etc. are the ego equivalent of NASCAR. That’s why people go so brain-dead watching television. All hypnosis is self-hypnosis and the television is an easy way to detach from the pressures of ‘real life.’ So give the ego something to play with; a ball, a puppy, a leaf in a stream. That’ll keep its focus while you work behind the scenes on changing old, reactive programming.
- Never, ever, ever attempt to show a redneck they’re wrong. If a redneck ever begins to suspect that you think they’re wrong, they will dig in their heels, especially when they begin to realize they might agree with you. It is best to approach a redneck from the stance of, “You’ll probably think I’m crazy, but I tried this one time and it worked.” Then ask their opinion of your crazy plan. Remember, they’re loyal critters. You’ve already shown that you’re not trying to attack and offered a nice toy, so that big redneck ego will naturally move to defending you (from yourself.)
You may be wondering why it is so important to know how to deal with the ego. Simply this, the ego is where reactions come from. Think about the last time you reacted to something or someone and felt bad later. The ego was in charge. If you didn’t like your reaction, the ego is the place to initiate change. Exactly how to do that will be the subject of many posts in upcoming days!