Lost in Perception

If I had to pick only two things The Sweetheart and I are really good at, it would be sex and misunderstandings. I’m grateful the sex is so good; it’s kept me around to learn and grow through the misunderstandings. I used to believe that I volunteered for this life in order to learn, then later realized that life is also supposed to be fun. I certainly get the best of both with The Sweetheart. He’s taught me scads about patience, perception, the beauty of admitting our mistakes, how to…

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Porcupine Love

I was once asked whether I had ever considered the mating habits of porcupines. Shuddering at the thought of all of those quills, I admitted that porcupine frolics were not something I had ever had any curiosity about. Then my brain went into overdrive, imagining how that would work. As it turns out, it’s much more about technique than position. When a male porcupine is interested in a female, he goes around back to check whether it is safe to proceed. The position they use is the same as most…

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PTSD is NOT for Wussies

I visit my counselor every few weeks to keep everything in good working order. There are many times we chat about life-in-general during my visits. Today was not one of those times. I arrived with a list. That was a first. At the top of my list was to eliminate the “startle” response. He asked me to explain a little about that. “You know,” I replied, “that thing that makes me jump two feet in the air every time there’s a loud noise. It’s horrible! I don’t mind my friends…

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