From the Other Side of Forgiveness

I procrastinated on writing this article for almost a week. What can I say about forgiveness that won’t sound trite and/or impossible to someone in the midst of experiencing the inability to forgive? Everything people said to me when I was in that situation was absolutely true, and only served to irritate me, leaving me further entrenched in my anger. I’m hoping not to have that effect. Please forgive me if I do. You Need to Forgive Him/Her They said it, and it was true, but not for the reasons they gave me. …

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Permission to Be Happy and Hope

The first time I ‘willingly’ went to a counselor, I was 28 years old. (My aunt had dragged me to a counselor who obviously didn’t know how to handle children after my Dad died. The poor woman kept asking me what I thought, and I finally told her, disgustedly, that if I knew what to think, I wouldn’t be sitting in her office!) At 28, I knew I was crazy. I felt my life ‘circling the drain’ as the same experiences kept happening, faster and faster. I was terrified and …

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Beliefs, Health, and Illness

If someone wishes for good health, one must first ask oneself if he is ready to do away with the reasons for his illness. Only then is it possible to help him. ~ Hippocrates (In my experience and opinion, there are disease states that arise from the physical. The above statement does not apply to those. In this article, I am applying this quote to disease states that have their foundations in the spiritual and emotional.) There are many reasons we attract things like illness into our life experience. It …

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Free is Good

I should take it as a sign that everything is in my favor when the first item rung up at the store is free. “Free,” said the cashier as she checked the clearance sticker on the cat toy I had impulsively picked up for Buddha, my 15-pound furbaby. “What? No, it’s about 40 cents, isn’t it?” I queried. Really? I’m probably the only person on the planet who would argue with free. The clerk was a darling and took the time to show me that the price actually was $0.00 …

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What is Abundance?

I thought I knew what abundance was. Five years after my divorce, I had rebuilt my life from a two-room rented office and a small rental house to owning my office, the house next door, and a five acre retirement property. I had everything in place to purchase a new rental property each year, and be able to retire on residual income within ten years. I thought that I was experiencing incredible abundance. The Universe obviously had different ideas on the topic for me to experience.

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PTSD is NOT for Wussies

I visit my counselor every few weeks to keep everything in good working order. There are many times we chat about life-in-general during my visits. Today was not one of those times. I arrived with a list. That was a first. At the top of my list was to eliminate the “startle” response. He asked me to explain a little about that. “You know,” I replied, “that thing that makes me jump two feet in the air every time there’s a loud noise. It’s horrible! I don’t mind my friends …

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