Loving You Back to YOU

It’s true. There is a wonder-full thing that happens as we begin to truly know ourselves, our purpose, our passion, our gifts, our talents, our way, our time. I’ve seen it in my clients. I’ve felt it in myself. I believe this is why empaths respond so well to coaching. As an empath, I was always receiving. As I began to know me, the receiving stopped being so overwhelming. It took me a while to understand why. I was taught to not be “me.” I had to pick up the …

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Judging Money

I’m completely fascinated by the myriad reactions to the current PowerBall jackpot. Last week’s drawing was worth $900 million dollars when I last checked. There was a terrific buzz that it could go over a billion. With no winner, it did. As of the current moment, the jackpot for tonight’s drawing stands at $1.5 BILLION (source: www.flalottery.com). I suspect it will edge even higher as ticket sales soar in the hours before the drawing goes off. So what? So… these opportunities inspire people to dream, ideate, form opinions, and talk… a …

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Self Care as the Highest Form of Care

I was appalled when I was introduced to this concept. How on Earth could anyone claim that putting myself before others was a good thing, let alone the MOST CARING thing I could do!?! The concept defied everything I had been taught for as long as I could remember. I would have rejected it out of hand, had I not already agreed to abide by the Standards of Presence during the course I was taking. It wasn’t easy, but I stifled my reaction and listened to what the teachers had …

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Why 50 is Absolutely the Best Age of My Life (so far)

I was having a conversation with a friend of mine this evening. She was expressing her sympathy over an unresolved situation in my life. As I assured her that it was actually fine, I realized the full possibility that this situation existed solely so I could have this realization. 50, as the cliche says, is FABULOUS!!! There is no biological clock in my life. The fact that it was surgically silenced five years ago is irrelevant. I have no emotional yearning to have children in my life. Apparently, 50 is that …

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Cascade of Shift

Life suddenly got a lot simpler since we got back from vacation. New experiences have a magical way of delivering new perspectives, even when I think new perspectives aren’t needed. Spending 11 days with a hormonal 17-year-old gave me new eyes for my own drama. Several times during our vacation, he went to sleep hating me and woke up loving me, or vice versa. The last morning of the trip, he woke up hating me (it had started the night before) and continued hating me until we got on the …

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Leaning in to let it go

Metamorphosis… What a GRAND word! So FULL of POSSIBILITY!!! The way one thing MAGICALLY becomes another! Such PROMISE! Such HOPE! Such ROMANCE! Such… Such a thing as Metamorphosis requires that thing called CHANGE. And Change, well, that’s a fearsome thing. And change, it doesn’t come free. Change requires a Decision. And Decision requires Courage, and Action, and… And it all looks like it could destroy everything that I hold dear, and my whole self along with it. And, in a way, it does. Change/Metamorphosis destroys what ‘was’ to allow what’s …

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A Way to Forgive

“To understand everything is to forgive everything.” ~ The Buddha I struggled with forgiveness for most of my life. I was 40+ and people were still telling me, “You have to forgive your Mother.” My reply was a stubborn, “No, I don’t! You don’t know anything about this!” They were right. I did need to forgive her, not for her, but for me. It hit me one day… the anger I had held all those years had not had near the effect on her that it had on me. So, …

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My Mentors Aren’t Perfect

I’ve reached the stage where I’m aware that my mentors are not perfect, not every ounce of the legend is true, they’re human (just like me,) and that is okay. As a matter of fact, that is just perfect. If they’re human just like me, I get to be human, too. I know that there are people who look up to me because they’ve put me on a pedestal and created a legend about me. Sometimes I stay on the pedestal for a little while, because I know they need …

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Be a Lamp, Lifeboat, or Ladder

“Be a lamp, or a lifeboat, or a ladder. Help someone’s soul heal. Walk out of your house like a shepherd.” ~ Rumi My Dear One, I want you to know that it counts if that “someone” is you. As a matter of fact, it counts at least DOUBLE! As you walk out of your house or stay in, as you are a lamp, a lifeboat, or a ladder to YOURSELF, as you help YOUR soul heal, you become more and more able to help others. Be a lamp to …

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Free is Good

I should take it as a sign that everything is in my favor when the first item rung up at the store is free. “Free,” said the cashier as she checked the clearance sticker on the cat toy I had impulsively picked up for Buddha, my 15-pound furbaby. “What? No, it’s about 40 cents, isn’t it?” I queried. Really? I’m probably the only person on the planet who would argue with free. The clerk was a darling and took the time to show me that the price actually was $0.00 …

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