Awareness and Shift in Action

Life isn’t about what happens to us, it’s about how we respond to the happenings. The A/C company just came and took the wall unit that cools the main area (living room, dining room, kitchen) of the house I’m currently living in. They had promised a replacement “rental” unit for the time it would take to repair this unit. Turns out, there are none available. They don’t have anything that will fit into that space. They also said they won’t know what they need to repair it until they get …

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Inner Conversations on Goal Setting

I first visited the Grand Canyon nearly twenty years ago. It was love at first sight. Deep in the emotion of discovery, I chose a rim-to-rim hike of the Grand Canyon “before I turn 50” as a goal. It felt like more than a goal; it was a passion and a soul-promise I made to myself. I turned 50 last February, without making that hike. Failure tasted bitter. Without knowing my feelings of failure, The Sweetheart (my significant other of the past couple of years) decided we should all go on …

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Sometimes it is Life and Death

The work I do is truly a privilege and an honor. Not many understand the work of a Life Coach. Sometimes, it is literally life and death, though that is the exception. Today, I had the honor of walking a young woman through a decision that will undoubtedly affect the rest of her life. One week ago, she found out she is pregnant. The baby’s father told her he would pay for an abortion. She didn’t know what to do.

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Blocks Suck

As a Life Coach, I cannot understand why a coach would ever focus on their clients’ blocks. I see the blurbs everywhere, “Overcome your Blocks,” “Conquer Obstacles,” “Push through your Pain.” They are legitimate coaching methods, but I simply cannot understand why anyone would use them, given the much easier and more effective methods readily available. Blocks suck. They suck the life out of clients, the joy out of work, and the fun out of life. Focusing on blocks sucks. I can do ‘Gapping the Goal,” and ‘Overcoming Blocks & …

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My Mom Thinks I am Perfect

While visiting my son in Chicago, I attended a group where he volunteers as a facilitator. At some point during his talk, he made the comment, “My Mom thinks I’m perfect.” He was making a point about mothers and how they don’t think anyone is good enough for their children. I refrained from correcting him at the time, but it got me to thinking. I do not believe that my son is perfect. Stellar, yes. Perfect, no.

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The Shit Cow

I spent part of my life on a dairy farm. I am intimately acquainted with the ways of livestock, the land, and people who are drawn to working them. There are many lessons to be learned from the earth, and from things that dwell close to it. One of the lessons I refer back to most often is The Shit Cow. I understand it’s not the most attractive term, but it’s the one used by dairy farmers. Beef farmers may not use it, but they don’t have to get up …

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Intention EASE

I dragged myself out of bed this morning. It’s better than it used to be, but sometimes I still have one of those “non-restorative sleep” nights. Doctors, family, and friends have suggested fibromyalgia, but denial works better for me. I have enough labels already, thank you! Anyway, I was still dragging around when the time came for Intentioning at 10 a.m. (Intentioning is one way we can connect with ourselves, each other, and the Universe. It really is a delicious way to start the day!) When I slow down, I …

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Before lessons grow into swans

I had a total meltdown two days ago. It was precipitated by a situation that came up two weeks ago, so it had been brewing for a while. My Rx4JOY website crashed during a hosting upgrade to a Linux platform. I immediately contacted my designer, only to find out that she had moved on to other things and was no longer available. It just made sense to migrate to a platform that I could manage on my own. There was just one little thing standing in my way. FEAR! I …

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