Cascade of Shift

Life suddenly got a lot simpler since we got back from vacation. New experiences have a magical way of delivering new perspectives, even when I think new perspectives aren’t needed. Spending 11 days with a hormonal 17-year-old gave me new eyes for my own drama. Several times during our vacation, he went to sleep hating me and woke up loving me, or vice versa. The last morning of the trip, he woke up hating me (it had started the night before) and continued hating me until we got on the …

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Permission to Be Happy and Hope

The first time I ‘willingly’ went to a counselor, I was 28 years old. (My aunt had dragged me to a counselor who obviously didn’t know how to handle children after my Dad died. The poor woman kept asking me what I thought, and I finally told her, disgustedly, that if I knew what to think, I wouldn’t be sitting in her office!) At 28, I knew I was crazy. I felt my life ‘circling the drain’ as the same experiences kept happening, faster and faster. I was terrified and …

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Listening to Guidance

Waaaaay back in 2006, I had an experience that would eventually lead me to Life Coaching. At that point in my life (it seems centuries ago,) I had not even heard the term ‘Life Coach.’ I was walking through my office one day and heard an audible voice say, “It’s time to change careers.” I knew I was alone in the office, and really didn’t think it was strange that I heard an audible voice, as I’ve always received messages and had heard an audible voice once before. In all …

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Wrapped Around the Axle

Today has been a ‘wrapped around the axle’ kind of day. If you’re not familiar with the term, I’ll give you a quick visual that I’m sure you’re familiar with. Driving on the highway, you’re behind a car that has a plastic bag flapping underneath it. That bag is wrapped around the axle (or some other part,) flying along at a high rate of speed but not doing anything obviously useful or productive. Yes, today was one of those days. I am committed to seeing the positive in everything. It …

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Sometimes it is Life and Death

The work I do is truly a privilege and an honor. Not many understand the work of a Life Coach. Sometimes, it is literally life and death, though that is the exception. Today, I had the honor of walking a young woman through a decision that will undoubtedly affect the rest of her life. One week ago, she found out she is pregnant. The baby’s father told her he would pay for an abortion. She didn’t know what to do.

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Blocks Suck

As a Life Coach, I cannot understand why a coach would ever focus on their clients’ blocks. I see the blurbs everywhere, “Overcome your Blocks,” “Conquer Obstacles,” “Push through your Pain.” They are legitimate coaching methods, but I simply cannot understand why anyone would use them, given the much easier and more effective methods readily available. Blocks suck. They suck the life out of clients, the joy out of work, and the fun out of life. Focusing on blocks sucks. I can do ‘Gapping the Goal,” and ‘Overcoming Blocks & …

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Just Try It

I was working with my own Life Coach today on how to effectively market and promote what I do, given that I don’t know what to call it and I don’t know anyone else who does it. (Seems like a great topic for coaching, doesn’t it?) As we fleshed out different aspects of what I do, it became obvious that what I DON’T do is equally important. I don’t disempower my clients. It goes entirely against everything I stand for to take someone’s power away from them by insinuating that …

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My Mom Thinks I am Perfect

While visiting my son in Chicago, I attended a group where he volunteers as a facilitator. At some point during his talk, he made the comment, “My Mom thinks I’m perfect.” He was making a point about mothers and how they don’t think anyone is good enough for their children. I refrained from correcting him at the time, but it got me to thinking. I do not believe that my son is perfect. Stellar, yes. Perfect, no.

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Resistance is Futile

Resistance… that is NOT what I sat down to write about this morning. Of course, I sat down to write at about nine o’clock this morning. It’s a little after five in the evening and these are the first words I’ve managed to choke out for this blog. Oh, I’ve written. I wrote a grocery list, notes for my next coaching session, titles for about twenty blog posts I’d like to write, emails, replies to Facebook fans, and a few dozen other things. Of course, that is how resistance works when it leans toward …

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Clear and Supported

I am human. I get emotional, irrational, irritable, make mistakes, and get overwhelmed, just like everyone else. “BUT, YOU’RE A LIFE COACH!” is a common response to my less-than-stellar moments. Yes, I am a Life Coach, and a superb one at that. Being a Life Coach does not exempt me from the day-to-day hassles of life. As my Sweetheart pointed out, it does hold me to a higher standard of resolving them.

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