Recommitment to Kwitcherbitchin’

I have a very old, ingrained habit of complaining. I grew up in a family of complainers. My mother was a martyr’s martyr. I heard “Kwitcherbitchin’!” a lot growing up. Complaining is a lot like smoking cigarettes; it’s great when you’re doing it, and a disgusting habit once you’ve quit. It’s also a really easy habit to pick up again, especially when I’m under stress. I recently came face to face with myself back in my complaining habit. Nobody else had to point it out. I just came to an …

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Not New Years Day

I got up this morning, made The Sweetheart’s coffee and lunch, and sent him out the door, just like every other morning. I didn’t even glance at the whiteboard I had meticulously crosshatched with goals and days of the week. Somewhere around 1:15 this afternoon, I was standing in the kitchen, juicing carrots, ginger, and turmeric as my lunch of beans and rice heated on the stove. I was a little in awe of myself. I had already written more words today than I have all week, posted on my …

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The Catastrophic Result of Self Care

Yesterday’s article started the conversation about Self Care, but it certainly didn’t cover everything there is to know. (I’m wondering; is there a topic that could be adequately addressed in a 750-word article?) I had consciously worked to deal with my codependency issues for nearly two decades. Nothing I learned through counseling, pastoral care, CODA, Al-Anon, et al, had as immediate, profound, and lasting effect as my training with Coach for Life. It was there I was introduced to the deeper levels of self-care and began this journey toward proficiency. …

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Wrapped Around the Axle

Today has been a ‘wrapped around the axle’ kind of day. If you’re not familiar with the term, I’ll give you a quick visual that I’m sure you’re familiar with. Driving on the highway, you’re behind a car that has a plastic bag flapping underneath it. That bag is wrapped around the axle (or some other part,) flying along at a high rate of speed but not doing anything obviously useful or productive. Yes, today was one of those days. I am committed to seeing the positive in everything. It …

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Right, Wrong, and Other Destinations

“You’re WRONG!” The words hit me like an attack. My entire focus turned inward, questioning what about me was wrong. Thankfully, I have enough training that I’m rarely triggered by these episodes for very long. After all, how could I be ‘wrong?’ I am me; what I am cannot be wrong. The outburst was about an opinion I had expressed. Again, my opinion is my opinion; an opinion cannot be wrong. It may differ from everyone else’s, but it is not wrong, merely different. In the moment, I laughed and …

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Blocks Suck

As a Life Coach, I cannot understand why a coach would ever focus on their clients’ blocks. I see the blurbs everywhere, “Overcome your Blocks,” “Conquer Obstacles,” “Push through your Pain.” They are legitimate coaching methods, but I simply cannot understand why anyone would use them, given the much easier and more effective methods readily available. Blocks suck. They suck the life out of clients, the joy out of work, and the fun out of life. Focusing on blocks sucks. I can do ‘Gapping the Goal,” and ‘Overcoming Blocks & …

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Relieving Performance Anxiety

I find it ironic that opening my laptop can create a mind-numbing experience of performance anxiety for me. After all, I can get up on a stage and speak to a room full of people with only with five minutes’ notice. How could opening my laptop be more intimidating than that? Questions like that are the core of coaching. I’ll share my answers with you, so you can get a feel for how easy it is to work through the challenges of life when we slow down and take a …

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Giving away the best seeds

I have had a truly amazing day. Today is my first day as a Facilitator for BELIEVE U. I have the honor and privilege to train people in the art of Life Coaching. I also received a phone call today from Peter Reding, co-founder of Coach for Life, where I received my Certification as a Life Coach. Synchronicity at its finest. To say that it is the completion of a circle is a drastic understatement. You see, I went to Coach for Life to learn to be a Life Coach, …

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The Ego is a Redneck from Missouri

Some people say the ego is the mind. I say the ego is a redneck from Missouri. Perhaps they are one and the same. I mean, think about it. What do we know about rednecks? They tote guns… because they are sworn to protect themselves and anybody else who might need protectin’, ‘specially them thar underdogs They fight… not randomly, but for what they believe in and for the same reason they carry guns (‘ceptin’ when they’s fightin’ one another fer fun) They’re loyal to a fault They will always …

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