Get This Be That

Once upon a time in a land far away, 25 years ago on the other side of Florida, I did something outrageously stupid. In the midst of an emotionally charged argument, a man asked me what I wanted. My exact reply: “I want to get married and be happy! The moment is burned into my brain. We were between his car and the front door of my house. I was in pain because our relationship was falling apart and my lifelong dream of getting married and being happy was slipping …

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From the Other Side of Forgiveness

I procrastinated on writing this article for almost a week. What can I say about forgiveness that won’t sound trite and/or impossible to someone in the midst of experiencing the inability to forgive? Everything people said to me when I was in that situation was absolutely true, and only served to irritate me, leaving me further entrenched in my anger. I’m hoping not to have that effect. Please forgive me if I do. You Need to Forgive Him/Her They said it, and it was true, but not for the reasons they gave me. …

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Why 50 is Absolutely the Best Age of My Life (so far)

I was having a conversation with a friend of mine this evening. She was expressing her sympathy over an unresolved situation in my life. As I assured her that it was actually fine, I realized the full possibility that this situation existed solely so I could have this realization. 50, as the cliche says, is FABULOUS!!! There is no biological clock in my life. The fact that it was surgically silenced five years ago is irrelevant. I have no emotional yearning to have children in my life. Apparently, 50 is that …

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Beliefs, Health, and Illness

If someone wishes for good health, one must first ask oneself if he is ready to do away with the reasons for his illness. Only then is it possible to help him. ~ Hippocrates (In my experience and opinion, there are disease states that arise from the physical. The above statement does not apply to those. In this article, I am applying this quote to disease states that have their foundations in the spiritual and emotional.) There are many reasons we attract things like illness into our life experience. It …

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Free is Good

I should take it as a sign that everything is in my favor when the first item rung up at the store is free. “Free,” said the cashier as she checked the clearance sticker on the cat toy I had impulsively picked up for Buddha, my 15-pound furbaby. “What? No, it’s about 40 cents, isn’t it?” I queried. Really? I’m probably the only person on the planet who would argue with free. The clerk was a darling and took the time to show me that the price actually was $0.00 …

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Getting Ready for Goal Setting

I’ve been allergic to goals most of my life. As soon as someone starts telling me I need to set goals, my system goes into defense mode and begins rejecting all efforts in that direction. I’ve got lots of excuses: I’m self employed and my income is inherently unstable; I can’t plan if I don’t know what I’ll be earning; I’m in a person-to-person business, and there is no way for me to know what other people will do; I didn’t set goals in my previous business, and that was …

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Shifting Gears and Perspectives

It seems like I have been ignoring or in battle with my body all of my life. Anorexia became my way of life when I was fifteen years old. It didn’t begin with trying to lose weight; it was a control issue. My mother and stepfather wouldn’t let me have any money except lunch money, so I stopped eating to gain control, both emotionally and financially. Quite by accident, I found out that if I didn’t eat breakfast, I wouldn’t be as hungry at lunchtime. Within six months, I was …

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Energy Shifting

As a young girl, I had many dreams and premonitions. It wasn’t that my family discouraged it, but most did not encourage it. When I was 15 years old, I woke up screaming one night. I had had one of ‘those’ dreams, the really vivid, I’m-in-it, brightly colored, full-surround-sound kind of dream. I dreamed that one of my friends from school was drunk and driving a car with three other classmates in it. They were laughing, partying, the music was loud. They were on a tree-lined, back country road. As …

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What is Abundance?

I thought I knew what abundance was. Five years after my divorce, I had rebuilt my life from a two-room rented office and a small rental house to owning my office, the house next door, and a five acre retirement property. I had everything in place to purchase a new rental property each year, and be able to retire on residual income within ten years. I thought that I was experiencing incredible abundance. The Universe obviously had different ideas on the topic for me to experience.

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PTSD is NOT for Wussies

I visit my counselor every few weeks to keep everything in good working order. There are many times we chat about life-in-general during my visits. Today was not one of those times. I arrived with a list. That was a first. At the top of my list was to eliminate the “startle” response. He asked me to explain a little about that. “You know,” I replied, “that thing that makes me jump two feet in the air every time there’s a loud noise. It’s horrible! I don’t mind my friends …

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