Doubting Self Doubt

Years ago, one of my college instructors returned a final essay with a bold, fat, red F at the top of the page and one word, “Plagiarism.” I was shocked! I knew that all of my work was mine and confronted my professor, demanding to know exactly what part was plagiarized. She cooly responded, “I know you didn’t write that; nobody writes that way.” It has taken years for the weight of that to sink in. Her specialty was English Lit. If any of my professors would know writing, it …

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Getting Ready for Goal Setting

I’ve been allergic to goals most of my life. As soon as someone starts telling me I need to set goals, my system goes into defense mode and begins rejecting all efforts in that direction. I’ve got lots of excuses: I’m self employed and my income is inherently unstable; I can’t plan if I don’t know what I’ll be earning; I’m in a person-to-person business, and there is no way for me to know what other people will do; I didn’t set goals in my previous business, and that was …

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Right, Wrong, and Other Destinations

“You’re WRONG!” The words hit me like an attack. My entire focus turned inward, questioning what about me was wrong. Thankfully, I have enough training that I’m rarely triggered by these episodes for very long. After all, how could I be ‘wrong?’ I am me; what I am cannot be wrong. The outburst was about an opinion I had expressed. Again, my opinion is my opinion; an opinion cannot be wrong. It may differ from everyone else’s, but it is not wrong, merely different. In the moment, I laughed and …

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When All Else Fails

I spent a week with the wonder-full folks at Coach For Life last week. Renewed would be my word for how I felt, or maybe Gratitude, or simply YUMMY! I’ve been struggling with finding my niche, branding myself, marketing, and everything else that a business plan would include. Apparently, my right-brained way of receiving information was not playing well with my left-brained way of wanting it all to fit in neat boxes. I’ve been having a logic vs. intuition battle of wills for several years, and no one was winning. …

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Dance of the Manifesting Diva

I was given the nickname Manifesting Diva about five years ago. It went like this: while attending my original Life Coach training, I announced an intention that my office would sell for more than the most optimistic Realtor said I could get for it, and it would sell quickly. The requested contract was finalized before the week was out, and my colleagues began calling me The Manifesting Diva. Of course, it wasn’t just that incident. They noticed that I manifested my best and highest with unusual frequency. They noticed it …

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Laughing Now

I’ve decided to add a new category to my blog. I really wanted to call it “A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to My Life,” but it takes up a lot of space. I think I’ll shorten it to Laughing Now and see how it goes. The whole concept started a couple of years ago. I remember that something really strange happened and I was very upset at the time. As the Divine would have it, I heard myself saying, “I’ll laugh about this later.” The next thought through …

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