Why 50 is Absolutely the Best Age of My Life (so far)

I was having a conversation with a friend of mine this evening. She was expressing her sympathy over an unresolved situation in my life. As I assured her that it was actually fine, I realized the full possibility that this situation existed solely so I could have this realization. 50, as the cliche says, is FABULOUS!!! There is no biological clock in my life. The fact that it was surgically silenced five years ago is irrelevant. I have no emotional yearning to have children in my life. Apparently, 50 is that …

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Cascade of Shift

Life suddenly got a lot simpler since we got back from vacation. New experiences have a magical way of delivering new perspectives, even when I think new perspectives aren’t needed. Spending 11 days with a hormonal 17-year-old gave me new eyes for my own drama. Several times during our vacation, he went to sleep hating me and woke up loving me, or vice versa. The last morning of the trip, he woke up hating me (it had started the night before) and continued hating me until we got on the …

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No Room for Advice in Coaching

I had someone send me a piece of advice they thought I could use in my coaching practice.Ah, the most common misconception in coaching… that I would have the audacity to tell someone else what they should be doing with their life. As though, somehow, I would know better.How could I possibly know better?Each of us is the one best expert in our own lives. There is no better expert in your life than you. After all, you are the only one who has been here the whole time. Same goes …

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