Am I Really Type-A?

I’m spending a quite a bit of time laughing at myself lately. It’s a good hobby, raising the endorphins and such. I’m laughing because I keep catching myself in the act of raising my own level of awareness. In case you didn’t know, the primary task of a Life Coach is raising the level of awareness. I’m just going to take a pause right here and acknowledge myself for doing a really great job with myself! Today’s laughter is around my new awareness of what my Type-A behavior might really …

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Callous, Callus, and Me

I firmly believe that people are put into my life for very specific reasons. Some of them are here to help me heal my wounds, others to remind me of them. I know who the re-mind-‘ers are because they rankle like a big, fat sliver under my skin, and they just won’t go away until I deal with the damned wound they keep poking. It so happens that I also believe that our greatest calling is the thing that we struggle with the most. My biggest struggle is with my …

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From the Other Side of Forgiveness

I procrastinated on writing this article for almost a week. What can I say about forgiveness that won’t sound trite and/or impossible to someone in the midst of experiencing the inability to forgive? Everything people said to me when I was in that situation was absolutely true, and only served to irritate me, leaving me further entrenched in my anger. I’m hoping not to have that effect. Please forgive me if I do. You Need to Forgive Him/Her They said it, and it was true, but not for the reasons they gave me. …

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Inner Conversations on Goal Setting

I first visited the Grand Canyon nearly twenty years ago. It was love at first sight. Deep in the emotion of discovery, I chose a rim-to-rim hike of the Grand Canyon “before I turn 50” as a goal. It felt like more than a goal; it was a passion and a soul-promise I made to myself. I turned 50 last February, without making that hike. Failure tasted bitter. Without knowing my feelings of failure, The Sweetheart (my significant other of the past couple of years) decided we should all go on …

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A Way to Forgive

“To understand everything is to forgive everything.” ~ The Buddha I struggled with forgiveness for most of my life. I was 40+ and people were still telling me, “You have to forgive your Mother.” My reply was a stubborn, “No, I don’t! You don’t know anything about this!” They were right. I did need to forgive her, not for her, but for me. It hit me one day… the anger I had held all those years had not had near the effect on her that it had on me. So, …

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A Love Story Begins

I’d like to share a love story with you. It’s a real-life story, and it’s still in progress, so I can’t guarantee you’ll see a storybook ending. What I can offer is a look into the lives of two people doing everything they can to be loving, kind, generous, healthy, and whole. The Sweetheart drove south three hours to pick me up last week. He needed to go twelve hours north to look at a couple of cars, and he wanted my help with the driving. More than that, he …

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My Mom Thinks I am Perfect

While visiting my son in Chicago, I attended a group where he volunteers as a facilitator. At some point during his talk, he made the comment, “My Mom thinks I’m perfect.” He was making a point about mothers and how they don’t think anyone is good enough for their children. I refrained from correcting him at the time, but it got me to thinking. I do not believe that my son is perfect. Stellar, yes. Perfect, no.

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