Value of Coaching: To Know You

If you really want to see me cry, tell me the truth of who you are and then ask for permission to be that as if it’s not okay. Without realizing it, that’s exactly what one of my coaching clients did today. I rarely use assessments in my coaching. Most assessments I’ve seen, from Meyers-Briggs to Myss Archetypes, put people in boxes. I’ve yet to meet a human who feels fully comfortable living life in a box. Most people who experience Assessment also experience at least a modicum of, “Yeah, …

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I Swear

I am intimately familiar with the nuanced flavors of Dial, Zest, Tide, and Palmolive, to name just a few. My mother had used all of them in a vain effort to wash “those dirty words” out of my mouth before the tender age of eight. Even the twenty-mule team of Borax didn’t stand a chance of pulling out the cantankerous roots of my heathen vocabulary. At nineteen, I found myself sitting across the desk from my supervisor in a major retail chain, being lectured on the inappropriateness of a sailor’s …

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Playing it Safe

I’m writing about this because I know that if something shows up three times, it is for me. This is one of those things that I absolutely do NOT want to invite into my life. Thus, here goes. First, I got a call from a friend. She met a guy and fell for him instantly. The first thing she said to me, “It’s been more than a decade since Jerry died. This is exactly what I felt when I met him. I can’t believe I’m feeling this way again! I …

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Callous, Callus, and Me

I firmly believe that people are put into my life for very specific reasons. Some of them are here to help me heal my wounds, others to remind me of them. I know who the re-mind-‘ers are because they rankle like a big, fat sliver under my skin, and they just won’t go away until I deal with the damned wound they keep poking. It so happens that I also believe that our greatest calling is the thing that we struggle with the most. My biggest struggle is with my …

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Authentic Connecting – a journey

“Creating a life that is full of authentic connecting is a lot like growing a garden. It takes intention in the beginning. The irrepressible force of life, the immense vitality of life, is what brings those plants up through that dark earth and into the light.” ~ Shayla Wright   Authentic Connecting   People ask me how I have connected with so many like minded people. Until I read Shayla’s quote, all I knew to say was, “I put myself out there.” It really was more like the garden of …

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It is Always Spring Again

I’m in Arizona this week; quite a change from Florida, where I have lived since 1989. Nonetheless, the landscape is comfortably familiar to me, as I am a native of the high desert in California. I am visiting during monsoon season. It is marked by torrential downpours, flash floods, and the most amazing thing that happens in the desert. As my mother pointed out, “It is always Spring again after the rain.” This phenomenon provides a beautiful glimpse into the human spirit.

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Benefits of Location Independence

Location independence means that meetings are not held in person. Meetings may take place via telephone, webinar, Skype, or any other practical method that doesn’t involve people being in the same physical location. The benefits to me as a Life Coach, Hypnotist, Meditation Leader, Inspired Learning Facilitator, etc. are obvious: I don’t have to travel to a location; I have the option to work from my home or while visiting vacation destinations without any impact on my clients or income; I have much greater freedom and flexibility in my schedule, etc. There …

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