From the Other Side of Forgiveness

I procrastinated on writing this article for almost a week. What can I say about forgiveness that won’t sound trite and/or impossible to someone in the midst of experiencing the inability to forgive? Everything people said to me when I was in that situation was absolutely true, and only served to irritate me, leaving me further entrenched in my anger. I’m hoping not to have that effect. Please forgive me if I do. You Need to Forgive Him/Her They said it, and it was true, but not for the reasons they gave me. …

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Awareness and Shift in Action

Life isn’t about what happens to us, it’s about how we respond to the happenings. The A/C company just came and took the wall unit that cools the main area (living room, dining room, kitchen) of the house I’m currently living in. They had promised a replacement “rental” unit for the time it would take to repair this unit. Turns out, there are none available. They don’t have anything that will fit into that space. They also said they won’t know what they need to repair it until they get …

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Exploring Workaholism through the eyes of my Inner Child

Inner Child work is some of the most frightening work I’ve ever done, simply because it is so very vulnerable. I wouldn’t do it, except for the fact that it is also some of the most revealing, freeing, and cathartic stuff I’ve ever tried, as well as being incredibly easy to do, and fun in the long run. Invariably, what comes out of it surprises me, even though it is me that I’m talking to! If it’s so wonderful, why don’t I do it all the time? It’s the anticipation …

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A Way to Forgive

“To understand everything is to forgive everything.” ~ The Buddha I struggled with forgiveness for most of my life. I was 40+ and people were still telling me, “You have to forgive your Mother.” My reply was a stubborn, “No, I don’t! You don’t know anything about this!” They were right. I did need to forgive her, not for her, but for me. It hit me one day… the anger I had held all those years had not had near the effect on her that it had on me. So, …

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Free is Good

I should take it as a sign that everything is in my favor when the first item rung up at the store is free. “Free,” said the cashier as she checked the clearance sticker on the cat toy I had impulsively picked up for Buddha, my 15-pound furbaby. “What? No, it’s about 40 cents, isn’t it?” I queried. Really? I’m probably the only person on the planet who would argue with free. The clerk was a darling and took the time to show me that the price actually was $0.00 …

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Let it Rain

Throughout my life, rain has held huge and varied symbolism for me. When I was younger, rain represented the angels crying the tears I wasn’t allowed to. Rain was also an excuse to flee the confines of the house in favor of running through puddles. When I lived on the farm, rain was the enemy of our freshly-mown alfalfa fields and the one thing we prayed for when the corn was newly planted and the ground was dry. As a homemaker, rain meant a day of baking breads and cookies, …

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When I am in Sadness

I would love a little extra LOVE today. There are shifts going on in my life and I’m feeling deep sadness. Letting go only happens to make room for something better. My heart knows this, but it is also healthy to feel the grieving part. I was never allowed to grieve as a child. Even when my father died, it was only acceptable to cry on the day of his funeral. I am exploring grieving. The bittersweet, the hope, the random tears, the good memories, the anger, it’s all here in …

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Beyond Right and Wrong

I’ve heard that human beings must hear a new concept seven different ways, from seven different people, before they can adopt it. I’d say that’s a pretty good average. Sometimes I’ll take on a new one at first brush. Other times, it takes far more than seven for me to understand. I hired my first counselor twenty years ago. One concept she introduced me to is that nothing, and therefore no one, is all good or bad. I argued this with her. I was certain that I knew people who …

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