Not New Years Day

I got up this morning, made The Sweetheart’s coffee and lunch, and sent him out the door, just like every other morning. I didn’t even glance at the whiteboard I had meticulously crosshatched with goals and days of the week. Somewhere around 1:15 this afternoon, I was standing in the kitchen, juicing carrots, ginger, and turmeric as my lunch of beans and rice heated on the stove. I was a little in awe of myself. I had already written more words today than I have all week, posted on my …

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Accidental Manifestations

All kinds of sucky things manifest when I’m resisting. Monday morning, I manifested a severe tire leak. Normally, I would have simply taken the spare vehicle, but I apparently manifested the heater core leaking radiator fluid into the passenger compartment of said (newly repaired) spare vehicle. I don’t care for the things I manifest when when I’m not being honest with myself about priorities. They’re often expensive and highly inconvenient. I’m sure these things would look like coincidence to some, but situations of this ilk occur so frequently in my …

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Get This Be That

Once upon a time in a land far away, 25 years ago on the other side of Florida, I did something outrageously stupid. In the midst of an emotionally charged argument, a man asked me what I wanted. My exact reply: “I want to get married and be happy! The moment is burned into my brain. We were between his car and the front door of my house. I was in pain because our relationship was falling apart and my lifelong dream of getting married and being happy was slipping …

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Loving You Back to YOU

It’s true. There is a wonder-full thing that happens as we begin to truly know ourselves, our purpose, our passion, our gifts, our talents, our way, our time. I’ve seen it in my clients. I’ve felt it in myself. I believe this is why empaths respond so well to coaching. As an empath, I was always receiving. As I began to know me, the receiving stopped being so overwhelming. It took me a while to understand why. I was taught to not be “me.” I had to pick up the …

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Judging Money

I’m completely fascinated by the myriad reactions to the current PowerBall jackpot. Last week’s drawing was worth $900 million dollars when I last checked. There was a terrific buzz that it could go over a billion. With no winner, it did. As of the current moment, the jackpot for tonight’s drawing stands at $1.5 BILLION (source: www.flalottery.com). I suspect it will edge even higher as ticket sales soar in the hours before the drawing goes off. So what? So… these opportunities inspire people to dream, ideate, form opinions, and talk… a …

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Authentic Connecting – a journey

“Creating a life that is full of authentic connecting is a lot like growing a garden. It takes intention in the beginning. The irrepressible force of life, the immense vitality of life, is what brings those plants up through that dark earth and into the light.” ~ Shayla Wright   Authentic Connecting   People ask me how I have connected with so many like minded people. Until I read Shayla’s quote, all I knew to say was, “I put myself out there.” It really was more like the garden of …

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Porcupine Love

I was once asked whether I had ever considered the mating habits of porcupines. Shuddering at the thought of all of those quills, I admitted that porcupine frolics were not something I had ever had any curiosity about. Then my brain went into overdrive, imagining how that would work. As it turns out, it’s much more about technique than position. When a male porcupine is interested in a female, he goes around back to check whether it is safe to proceed. The position they use is the same as most …

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From the Other Side of Forgiveness

I procrastinated on writing this article for almost a week. What can I say about forgiveness that won’t sound trite and/or impossible to someone in the midst of experiencing the inability to forgive? Everything people said to me when I was in that situation was absolutely true, and only served to irritate me, leaving me further entrenched in my anger. I’m hoping not to have that effect. Please forgive me if I do. You Need to Forgive Him/Her They said it, and it was true, but not for the reasons they gave me. …

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The Catastrophic Result of Self Care

Yesterday’s article started the conversation about Self Care, but it certainly didn’t cover everything there is to know. (I’m wondering; is there a topic that could be adequately addressed in a 750-word article?) I had consciously worked to deal with my codependency issues for nearly two decades. Nothing I learned through counseling, pastoral care, CODA, Al-Anon, et al, had as immediate, profound, and lasting effect as my training with Coach for Life. It was there I was introduced to the deeper levels of self-care and began this journey toward proficiency. …

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Self Care as the Highest Form of Care

I was appalled when I was introduced to this concept. How on Earth could anyone claim that putting myself before others was a good thing, let alone the MOST CARING thing I could do!?! The concept defied everything I had been taught for as long as I could remember. I would have rejected it out of hand, had I not already agreed to abide by the Standards of Presence during the course I was taking. It wasn’t easy, but I stifled my reaction and listened to what the teachers had …

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