Value of Coaching: To Know You

If you really want to see me cry, tell me the truth of who you are and then ask for permission to be that as if it’s not okay. Without realizing it, that’s exactly what one of my coaching clients did today. I rarely use assessments in my coaching. Most assessments I’ve seen, from Meyers-Briggs to Myss Archetypes, put people in boxes. I’ve yet to meet a human who feels fully comfortable living life in a box. Most people who experience Assessment also experience at least a modicum of, “Yeah, …

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Am I Really Type-A?

I’m spending a quite a bit of time laughing at myself lately. It’s a good hobby, raising the endorphins and such. I’m laughing because I keep catching myself in the act of raising my own level of awareness. In case you didn’t know, the primary task of a Life Coach is raising the level of awareness. I’m just going to take a pause right here and acknowledge myself for doing a really great job with myself! Today’s laughter is around my new awareness of what my Type-A behavior might really …

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Marginalized by Privilege

A few weeks ago, I wrote an article about what I had learned from #Pulse and the aftermath up to that point. You can read the article here. One reader’s response started out like this: “I was so moved and touched with your words that I shed tears while reading this at work. Very beautifully said. Especially the section where you talk about the misuse of love and the human conditions not being able to change with legislation or hate. But then I noticed you’re white.” My words were valid until …

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Recommitment to Kwitcherbitchin’

I have a very old, ingrained habit of complaining. I grew up in a family of complainers. My mother was a martyr’s martyr. I heard “Kwitcherbitchin’!” a lot growing up. Complaining is a lot like smoking cigarettes; it’s great when you’re doing it, and a disgusting habit once you’ve quit. It’s also a really easy habit to pick up again, especially when I’m under stress. I recently came face to face with myself back in my complaining habit. Nobody else had to point it out. I just came to an …

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When Happy isn’t Happy Enough

Have you ever been depressed? I have, and it sucks. At one point in my life, I was so depressed that my doctor put me on Zoloft because I was breaking down and crying ‘for no reason’ in my office. Zoloft was nothing short of a miracle for me; the crying stopped, other people’s problems weren’t mine, and I felt happy. Had it not been for the side effects, I would probably still be using it today. Fortunately for my own personal growth, and whatever I share that helps you, …

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The Human Continuum

I didn’t write this. It is part of a conversation I had with the cousin of someone I am praying for who was shot at The Pulse in Orlando. I’ve posted it here with permission because people need to READ this: Only the human mind invents categories, have to put things on and in little boxes and call it good, and tries to force facts into separated tiny little pigeon-holes. The living world is a continuum in each and every one of its aspects. The sooner we learn this concerning …

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Love and Remission

Hate is a cancer. Anger is a cancer. Violent emotions are a cancer. Rejection is a cancer, whether rejection of others or the deeper cancer – rejection of self. They are cancers of the soul.   Whatever shows up in the soul will filter down through the mind and emotions, into the physical.   No wonder there is such an outbreak of cancer in the world.   This was shared with me today, and I must share with you because the truth of it is vibrating deep in my bones. …

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Resisting Receiving

I caught myself doing it again today. In the midst of saying the Long Healing Prayer for a Baha’i friend, I found myself resisting receiving. What??? “The Manifesting Diva™” isn’t supposed to ever have slip ups like that! Wait! Who says? I don’t hold myself to perfection, nor do I hold anyone else to it (except when I slip up and do that, too!) Holding ourselves to perfection is a great way to stifle growth, impede progress, and delay manifesting. After all, if we have to pretend we are right …

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Lost in Perception

If I had to pick only two things The Sweetheart and I are really good at, it would be sex and misunderstandings. I’m grateful the sex is so good; it’s kept me around to learn and grow through the misunderstandings. I used to believe that I volunteered for this life in order to learn, then later realized that life is also supposed to be fun. I certainly get the best of both with The Sweetheart. He’s taught me scads about patience, perception, the beauty of admitting our mistakes, how to …

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Nicer to Me

“I can rest when I’m dead!” My mother’s words still ring in my head, a martyr’s call to arms from earliest childhood. Long after she stopped working and started spending every day in her recliner, she was still the most tired and unhappy woman I’ve ever known. No matter how much I think I know about the conditioning and beliefs that were neither healthy nor true, I still find them cropping up in my life. More accurately, I am deeply amazed when they are suddenly resolved. Just as a fish …

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