Permission to Be Happy and Hope

The first time I ‘willingly’ went to a counselor, I was 28 years old. (My aunt had dragged me to a counselor who obviously didn’t know how to handle children after my Dad died. The poor woman kept asking me what I thought, and I finally told her, disgustedly, that if I knew what to think, I wouldn’t be sitting in her office!) At 28, I knew I was crazy. I felt my life ‘circling the drain’ as the same experiences kept happening, faster and faster. I was terrified and …

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Leaning in to let it go

Metamorphosis… What a GRAND word! So FULL of POSSIBILITY!!! The way one thing MAGICALLY becomes another! Such PROMISE! Such HOPE! Such ROMANCE! Such… Such a thing as Metamorphosis requires that thing called CHANGE. And Change, well, that’s a fearsome thing. And change, it doesn’t come free. Change requires a Decision. And Decision requires Courage, and Action, and… And it all looks like it could destroy everything that I hold dear, and my whole self along with it. And, in a way, it does. Change/Metamorphosis destroys what ‘was’ to allow what’s …

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A Way to Forgive

“To understand everything is to forgive everything.” ~ The Buddha I struggled with forgiveness for most of my life. I was 40+ and people were still telling me, “You have to forgive your Mother.” My reply was a stubborn, “No, I don’t! You don’t know anything about this!” They were right. I did need to forgive her, not for her, but for me. It hit me one day… the anger I had held all those years had not had near the effect on her that it had on me. So, …

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My Mentors Aren’t Perfect

I’ve reached the stage where I’m aware that my mentors are not perfect, not every ounce of the legend is true, they’re human (just like me,) and that is okay. As a matter of fact, that is just perfect. If they’re human just like me, I get to be human, too. I know that there are people who look up to me because they’ve put me on a pedestal and created a legend about me. Sometimes I stay on the pedestal for a little while, because I know they need …

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Beliefs, Health, and Illness

If someone wishes for good health, one must first ask oneself if he is ready to do away with the reasons for his illness. Only then is it possible to help him. ~ Hippocrates (In my experience and opinion, there are disease states that arise from the physical. The above statement does not apply to those. In this article, I am applying this quote to disease states that have their foundations in the spiritual and emotional.) There are many reasons we attract things like illness into our life experience. It …

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Be a Lamp, Lifeboat, or Ladder

“Be a lamp, or a lifeboat, or a ladder. Help someone’s soul heal. Walk out of your house like a shepherd.” ~ Rumi My Dear One, I want you to know that it counts if that “someone” is you. As a matter of fact, it counts at least DOUBLE! As you walk out of your house or stay in, as you are a lamp, a lifeboat, or a ladder to YOURSELF, as you help YOUR soul heal, you become more and more able to help others. Be a lamp to …

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Organized Flow

Confession… I have not considered myself to be a very organized person. Ironically, I have been acknowledged on many occasions for my organizational skills. When it’s pointed out to me, I can see that I am very organized in certain areas of my life. Financial organization, budgeting, filing, record keeping, spreadsheets, data analysis, projections, etc… those have historically been anathema for me. I have avoided them as surely as a plague. All that said, I invite you to imagine my surprise when the first thought through my mind as I …

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Weary Edgewalker

After this week’s post on Finding my Inner Edgewalker, I had a session with a coaching client, and realized there is a lot more that needs to be said. Not just about the different kinds of Edgewalkers (Innate vs Situational, Accepting vs Rebelling, Aware vs Unaware, etc.), what Edgewalkers are (I’ll get to it, or check out Judi Neal and the Edgewalkers org,) there also is a lot to be said about what it’s like to be an Edgewalker. Today’s story is of the Weary Edgewalker. It was actually at the point …

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No Room for Advice in Coaching

I had someone send me a piece of advice they thought I could use in my coaching practice.Ah, the most common misconception in coaching… that I would have the audacity to tell someone else what they should be doing with their life. As though, somehow, I would know better.How could I possibly know better?Each of us is the one best expert in our own lives. There is no better expert in your life than you. After all, you are the only one who has been here the whole time. Same goes …

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Discovering My Inner Edgewalker

I have been uncomfortable most of my life. I never felt like I fit in. People frequently told me I took too many risks, but I didn’t think so. After all, I was responsible, paid my bills, and avoided anything that was physically dangerous. Apparently, packing up my son and moving 1200 miles away to a place where I had no job and knew only two people might be considered risky by some. Going into business for myself was considered risky by others. Completely changing careers and starting a new …

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