Weary Edgewalker

After this week’s post on Finding my Inner Edgewalker, I had a session with a coaching client, and realized there is a lot more that needs to be said. Not just about the different kinds of Edgewalkers (Innate vs Situational, Accepting vs Rebelling, Aware vs Unaware, etc.), what Edgewalkers are (I’ll get to it, or check out Judi Neal and the Edgewalkers org,) there also is a lot to be said about what it’s like to be an Edgewalker. Today’s story is of the Weary Edgewalker. It was actually at the point …

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No Room for Advice in Coaching

I had someone send me a piece of advice they thought I could use in my coaching practice.Ah, the most common misconception in coaching… that I would have the audacity to tell someone else what they should be doing with their life. As though, somehow, I would know better.How could I possibly know better?Each of us is the one best expert in our own lives. There is no better expert in your life than you. After all, you are the only one who has been here the whole time. Same goes …

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Discovering My Inner Edgewalker

I have been uncomfortable most of my life. I never felt like I fit in. People frequently told me I took too many risks, but I didn’t think so. After all, I was responsible, paid my bills, and avoided anything that was physically dangerous. Apparently, packing up my son and moving 1200 miles away to a place where I had no job and knew only two people might be considered risky by some. Going into business for myself was considered risky by others. Completely changing careers and starting a new …

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Listening to Guidance

Waaaaay back in 2006, I had an experience that would eventually lead me to Life Coaching. At that point in my life (it seems centuries ago,) I had not even heard the term ‘Life Coach.’ I was walking through my office one day and heard an audible voice say, “It’s time to change careers.” I knew I was alone in the office, and really didn’t think it was strange that I heard an audible voice, as I’ve always received messages and had heard an audible voice once before. In all …

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Wrapped Around the Axle

Today has been a ‘wrapped around the axle’ kind of day. If you’re not familiar with the term, I’ll give you a quick visual that I’m sure you’re familiar with. Driving on the highway, you’re behind a car that has a plastic bag flapping underneath it. That bag is wrapped around the axle (or some other part,) flying along at a high rate of speed but not doing anything obviously useful or productive. Yes, today was one of those days. I am committed to seeing the positive in everything. It …

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Free is Good

I should take it as a sign that everything is in my favor when the first item rung up at the store is free. “Free,” said the cashier as she checked the clearance sticker on the cat toy I had impulsively picked up for Buddha, my 15-pound furbaby. “What? No, it’s about 40 cents, isn’t it?” I queried. Really? I’m probably the only person on the planet who would argue with free. The clerk was a darling and took the time to show me that the price actually was $0.00 …

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Energy Vampires – Who is Draining You?

I’ve heard talk of energy vampires for several years now. Most of that talk focuses on how draining they are and, of course, how to get them out of your life. During a recent seminar, I had a huge ah-ha moment. Of course, the topic was energy vampires. “Who do you need to fire?” the presenter asked. “Myself,” said my internal voice. WHAT??? The presenter went on with her talk about getting rid of people, while I went on to my own internal seminar. I’m sharing what I got out …

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Getting Ready for Goal Setting

I’ve been allergic to goals most of my life. As soon as someone starts telling me I need to set goals, my system goes into defense mode and begins rejecting all efforts in that direction. I’ve got lots of excuses: I’m self employed and my income is inherently unstable; I can’t plan if I don’t know what I’ll be earning; I’m in a person-to-person business, and there is no way for me to know what other people will do; I didn’t set goals in my previous business, and that was …

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Shifting Gears and Perspectives

It seems like I have been ignoring or in battle with my body all of my life. Anorexia became my way of life when I was fifteen years old. It didn’t begin with trying to lose weight; it was a control issue. My mother and stepfather wouldn’t let me have any money except lunch money, so I stopped eating to gain control, both emotionally and financially. Quite by accident, I found out that if I didn’t eat breakfast, I wouldn’t be as hungry at lunchtime. Within six months, I was …

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A Love Story Begins

I’d like to share a love story with you. It’s a real-life story, and it’s still in progress, so I can’t guarantee you’ll see a storybook ending. What I can offer is a look into the lives of two people doing everything they can to be loving, kind, generous, healthy, and whole. The Sweetheart drove south three hours to pick me up last week. He needed to go twelve hours north to look at a couple of cars, and he wanted my help with the driving. More than that, he …

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